Law and disorder dating
My ex was once diagnosed with borderline personality disorder by a psychologist, and refused to accept the diagnosis because the doctor was "clearly less intelligent than them." This is pretty standard behavior: anybody who's in a "higher" position than a narcissist is either there to be challenged ("how dare they think they're better than me? This is why so many people get into relationships with narcissists in the first place: they're absolutely charming and lovely ... Mine was the funniest, most exciting person in the room, and pursued me with great confidence (and a lot of drama, about which more later).They also take a lot of risks (because, hey, rules don't apply to them) and are fearless, which makes them great dates.It's easy to throw around the word "narcissist" around without really knowing what it means: Whether you're talking about Kim Kardashian's selfie obsession, Madonna comparing herself to Martin Luther King, or Kanye West, er, just being Kanye, it's easy to forget that genuine narcissistic behavior is a recognized mental condition.Sufferers of what's called narcissistic personality disorder aren't just vain; they're grandiose about themselves to the point of obsession, charmingly manipulative, and often have a sociopathic lack of empathy towards others.Like a particular kind of Houston woman, the fact that she lives on the top floor of a luxury apartment building is a sign of reduced circumstances, though in her case the loss of an impressive River Oaks home resulted from a death instead of a divorce.
(This is partially where the emotional abuse bit kicks in: in my case, my ex loved pulling apart my memories and challenging my view of reality, which is a technique called gaslighting.) Particularly if they believe they're intellectually superior, they get a kick out of dismantling your thoughts and showing off how smart they are. My ex once told me, "Of all the people I've ever taken classes with, yours is the only intellect I've ever respected." A truly spectacular compliment — and one I was bound, eventually, to fail to live up to. They think you might be perfect just like them, and want to impress you — but as it becomes clear you aren't, they become less and less interested.So if any of these 15 signs that you're dating a narcissist do pop up, please proceed with extreme caution — and remember, from someone who's been there, that famous charm may turn on you.Narcissists believe that they are literally above the law in every way.Sometimes that's OK, as it means they encourage you to do things you've never done before — but other times, it means your own personality and preferences get squashed. But they can't relax; they always need to be in charge of everything, from holidays to dates to life in general.
For example, my ex made me eat Mc Donalds for the first time. To a narcissist's mind, it's impossible to have met them and not formed a strong opinion about them — generally adoration.John O’Quinn didn’t just set out to be a lawyer, he set out to be the best (and the richest) lawyer who ever lived.