Dating at forty
(Hey, to echo Lloyd Christmas, there’s referred to it as the “Soho House of dating apps”—but if you can manage to get an invite, we say go for it.The app traffics mainly in creative types and anything ultra status-y: celebrities, people who work in the media, athletes, and even reality TV contestants.There are literally hundreds of apps to choose from, and if you’re a busy guy looking for something meaningful, scrolling through an endless stream of music-festival selfies probably isn’t the best use of your time.But that doesn’t mean smartphone dating isn’t for you.Well, she and I ended up talking about this Forty Days of Dating project the entire time. She asked us straight away if Tim and I were attracted to each other. He almost had a panic attack when I sent him a list of date ideas for the next week! Love is not a matter of the heart, it’s all in our brain. I think it was a bit soon for this, but our therapist Jocelyn wanted to have a consultation first. Jocelyn hit us with a TON of questions that I’m not sure either of us were prepared to talk about so quickly with her: 1. It was cute that Tim insisted on being a gentleman and walking me home after the play. How much does it suck to see someone read your text and then they don’t write back? However, Jessie and I have something planned on Sunday, so it was probably best to do a date tonight instead of Saturday night. The things you learn about someone that you think you know. How do you feel about this relationship/project right now? Tonight was the first time things felt date-y and I felt okay about it.This is something we’ve never discussed, although we have been flirtatious with each other in the past. Chemicals like dopamine and norepinephrine are released when in love. When I have a crazy day at work, I often forget to check my cell phone. Anyway, we went to the Off-Broadway play, Did anything interesting happen? Jessie told me some very personal stuff that’s happened in her life. Apparently she doesn’t check her texts much, which I somehow did not know. The intimate talk and the crisp spring air made our walk home feel a bit romantic. Well I certainly won’t text her if I need to get a hold of her. I think Jessie caught me looking at the Knicks score on my phone during the play. He’s been a great friend, and I know he’s a very kind person.
We discussed Tim’s relationship patterns, and how he’s in a constant cycle between three women.After some awkward glances, we both admitted that we do find each other attractive. The chemicals increases energy, increases focus, and helps make us feel fucking awesome all the time. Actually, sometimes I don’t bring it to the studio at all. I guess I should look into an app that downloads texts to the computer. I’m happy she did, and that she trusted me enough to tell me.